I used to approach every handover expecting it to be difficult. Even a small change of plan could leave me unsettled for the rest of the day.

I began writing down the practical details before replying: the time, the place and what the children needed. Keeping those arrangements clear gave me a little more space to pause.

This did not resolve every disagreement. I learned to seek appropriate support when a situation felt beyond what I could manage. Every family is different, and a routine that suits one may not suit another.

A thought to take with you

Your next step can be small. Consider what feels manageable and who you feel comfortable asking for support.